The divorce process can be challenging. From emotional and financial turmoil to complicated negotiations centered on drafting the best parenting plan possible, the divorcing couple will likely face unexpected trouble at every turn. There are several ways, however, you can help yourself with a smoother, more efficient transition to single life.
Here are four helpful tips to keep in mind:
- Go in expecting to compromise: Even when divorce is the best solution for a stable, independent future, the two spouses will likely disagree on some matters. From custody and visitation to property division and debt responsibility, if you approach the divorce process expecting to negotiate numerous beneficial compromises, you will likely have a better experience.
- Avoid posting on social media: Many people have become accustomed to posting regular status updates on their social media outlet of choice. Whether it is Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or LinkedIn, you should avoid discussing your divorce. Too often, discussions can turn acrimonious, aggressive and hurtful making for a difficult meeting the following day.
- Do some financial planning for your new future: Moving from one household into two futures can be a jarring experience. You will halve your buying power and likely see a change in your credit rating. It is wise to start early when determining a post-divorce budget. Carefully analyze your spending and ensure you have money to pay your bills in advance of any discretionary spending.
- Be honest with the kids, but not too honest: It can be a slippery slope, but you’ll need to gauge honesty. Be prepared to have frank discussions with your children so you can assuage any fears or hidden resentment but be prepared to rein in the conversation if there is infidelity or illegal activity involved. You might run the risk of parental alienation or other harmful psychological damage.
Do not hesitate to start preparing for the divorce process. Whether it is closing shared credit cards or researching neutral sites for a child custody exchange, the more preparation that can be completed beforehand generally leads to a smoother divorce process. An experienced family law attorney can provide the answers and guidance you need from start to finish.
