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How to tell your spouse that you are filing for divorce

Sitting down with your spouse and telling them that you want a divorce may be one of the most difficult things that you will ever have to do. It may be obvious to both of you that your marriage is not working, or it may only be you who feels unsatisfied in the marriage. Whatever the situation, your spouse will need to find out eventually that you are planning to divorce them.

It’s important to note that if you worry that your spouse will become angry or aggressive when hearing this, you should not have the conversation in person. Always prioritize your safety. If you are comfortable having the conversation in person, following are some tips to follow.

Make a plan

You’ve spent hours thinking about the pros and cons of divorce, and now it’s time to explain to your spouse the logic behind the conclusion to which you’ve come. Therefore, you should plan what you’re going to say. Write down some notes that you can refer back to when things go off-topic.

Reserve the time

Don’t talk to your spouse without warning. Make sure that it’s just the two of you and that they understand that the conversation is going to be an important one.

Don’t back down if you’ve already made your decision

If your spouse tries to change your mind, try to stand your ground. You came to this conclusion for a reason, and you didn’t make the decision lightly.

If you are planning to file for a divorce, make sure that you are equipped with the legal information you need to get the best possible result.

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